RogueBelle

theroguefeminist:

It’s not about sex - they have porn, they have as much fucking porn as they could possibly ask for

they have billboards and ads and primetime tv shows and hollywood movies and websites free videos magazines they have porn channels porn movies with sexy images of women

they have girls on websites who are paid to webcam with them

there are girls who post sexy pics of themselves online for them

none of this is enough, none of this is, at the bottom of it all, what they want

creepshots specifically says this isn’t enough - they don’t want pics of girls knowingly posing (i.e. giving consent)

they want to violate, they want to rape, they want to own every woman walking down the fucking street

they want your teenager daughter, they want your mom, they want you

when you don’t know it, when you can’t say no, when you’re on the bus, when you’re walking down the street, when you’re at the beach

they get off on your violation, they want more proof that women exist for them and them alone

it’s sexy because it’s embarrassing, humiliating; they say it themselves

this is rape culture in its purest form

because women saying yes on screen, women saying yes to their faces, saying yes on their computers, on their phones is not what they want

that’s not “hot” enough

what’s hot is violating your consent, what’s hot is demeaning you, what’s hot is owning a piece of you against your will

and they won’t stop until we are all pornography

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Time-Machine (via a comment at shakesville.com)

Single greatest argument about this I have ever heard. 

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salmiakkivodka:

spirallingmadness:

fall3nsoldi3r:

i-am-the-one-who-knocks:

jacks-black-canvas:

blacksheep-runner:

Petition the Obama Administration to mandate education about sexual assault and rape in schools

The last petition we were pushing did not obtain enough votes, we will not stop until this is mandated.  Please vote on the WHITEHOUSE.GOV website, it takes 2 seconds and they never send you emails. 

Good Idea

I support this 100%

wow signal fucking boost

Come on guys, sign this, even if you’re not from the States. The problem of rape is not confined by borders.

You do not need to live in the US or be a citizen to sign. You will need to make an account, but you can leave the location blank.

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agentotter:

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presentlyk:

pasylree:

#safetytipsforladies: A hashtag about how tired women are of being told to do stupid, ineffective, unrealistic things to avoid being raped.

“try becoming Medusa, or if that is too difficult, a basilisk.”

Not sure if laughing or crying.

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sorayachemaly:

1. If you use the expression “boys will be boys,” think about why and what it means. Then STOP.
2. Understand and don’t trivialize the effects of stereotypes and media messaging. 
3. Challenge authority, especially authorities that derive power from systems based on complementary roles for men and women. 
4. Don’t sugarcoat sexualized violence, don’t laugh at it, and don’t repeat well-debunked rape mythologies. 
5. Don’t slut-shame girls or stud-bait boys. 
6. If you have kids, boys and girls, make them do domestic work—the exact same kind of domestic work. Sounds silly, right? But, here’s the thing, when children do domestic work they value it, they understand what unpaid labor is, they are better at empathizing and they grow up to be more egalitarian. It’s small but significant.
7. Teach boys to cross-gender empathize. 
8. Speak openly about bodies, consent, rights, and autonomy. 
9. Don’t give your children’s school a pass when they transmit common biased ideas because of “tradition,” or to be “polite.” 
10. Choose your sports carefully. Our national sport, football, glorifies brute force, physical dominance, violence, and literally marginalizes women and LGBTQ people. 

As with rape, many of the items on this list have traditionally been sidelined as “women’s issues.” So, lastly, if you think certain things are “women’s issues,” think again. There are very few things—maybe tampon technology—that are uniquely specific to women. Otherwise, especially when it comes to the Big Issue, there is almost nothing that ISN’T a “women’s issue,” including the economy, war and militarism, state security, global warming, scientific denialism, and abuse of power in every manifestation. These are  “problems we face involving men with unchallenged power.”

hazellazer:

Curious how often this happens.

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fructoselollipop:

demigodofhoolemere:

goldenbellecherryblossoms:

demigodofhoolemere:

afirewiel:

erintendo:

vectormusclebone:

rape apologist cw, rape cw

erintendo:

i don’t feel like graham was raped, i mean yes she was using him, but i dont think he was completely innocent either,

HOLY FUCK, I CAN’T BELIEVE YOU’RE SERIOUS RN.  it doesn’t matter if the person who was raped was “innocent”, that doesn’t change the fact that it happened and is a terrible, life changing thing.  Regina raped Graham when she took his heart and made him do whatever she wanted (including having sex ect. with her when she got her knights to take him to her bedroom) or else she would kill him. SEX UNDER COERCION IS RAPE.

oh my god i just watched the episodes with graham in them to make sure my memory wasn’t off.. he willingly went to regina on more than one occassion, one time being because he “wanted to feel something”.. it wasn’t rape. he was willing. it was consensual.

Nope. Because the of the curse, he HAD to go to Regina. He just did not know why. It made him think he was doing it willingly, but in reality, he wasn’t.

…someone tell me how this was ever in question that it was not consensual

I’m pretty sure it was not rape… the curse really didn’t make him do anything he didn’t want to. It’s not like the curse moved his body to Regina’s house and made him have sex with her.

Actually that was kind of exactly what happened to him. Not that his body was magically moved and he had no choice because of that, but the curse absolutely made him do that without him being able to think about it because he didn’t know why or what was going on, but the curse just erased all thoughts of even questioning why that was happening. He was forced in Storybrooke as much as Fairytale Land, the only difference being that in Storybrooke he didn’t know at first that he literally had no choice but to be with her (he just couldn’t change it then, because of the wiped memories and the haze that sort of made all the citizens of Storybrooke live out these fake lives without choice or question) and that he was under threat of being killed if he refused.

Actually, the curse made them ALL do things that they did not want to do, but that’s another rant altogether.

The curse, for all intents and purposes in Graham’s case, is one big date rape drug. The curse (and Regina’s continued possession of his literal heart) robbed him (and everyone else) of his free will. He was not capable of giving informed consent.

Allow me to repeat that. HE WAS NOT CAPABLE OF GIVING INFORMED CONSENT. The curse created in his mind a false relationship, and one that he was not even happy with at that. The curse was designed to make everyone miserable, so it stands to reason that he would not be happy with Regina in any stretch of the imagination, and yet, the curse kept him pliable to Regina’s desires and whims. 

That is still rape, no matter how much one tries to ignore or justify it. 

Let’s not even go into the mental and emotional abuse we know Regina is willing to employ (she threatened Archie’s livelihood when he refused to conform his practice to her desires, so we know she is not above doing such a thing). There is no reason to believe that she would not do the same thing to Graham should he have expressed a desire to leave the relationship prior to Emma’s arrival.

That.

Is. 

Rape. 

It will always be rape. 

Always. 

She literally had control over him, even before the curse, from the moment she ripped his fucking heart out of his chest. Where, please, does his free will enter into that even a little bit? And let’s not forget that when she realises her magical hold over him is slipping, she also fucking murders the person she was raping.

I seriously worry about people who do not understand this. Or I worry for the people they’re in relationships with. Failure of comprehension on this issue is just… unfathomable.

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sendificator:

casual-isms:

Trigger Warning: Rape

feminishblog:

thewhitemankilledthetruth:

vegetarianlyfe:

cessium:

acoolgeoduck:

azelbasil:

So this is one of the men involved in the raping in Ohio. His facebook even says “Head Rapist at Rape Crew.” He was not charged at all.

If only what he said here wasn’t true. 

WOW

CAN WE LIKE 

OH MY FUCK

THE PRIVILEGE HERE MAKES ME SICK.

I would actually strangle him if I had the misfortune of ever being near him.

“This country loves football more than its own daughters”

I want you all to think long and hard about that.

Just google bomb Michael Nodianos’ name yall

Raging. I can’t even communicate anything else right now, but knew this had to be shared. Bold is my own.

we are those daughters and we will bring you to the ground.

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seriouslyamerica:

TW: Rape, rape culture

socialismartnature:

Everything about this article is must-read!

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Jen Roesch explains how the sickening revelations about a gang rape in an Ohio town have highlighted facts about sexual assault today—and its roots in our society.

A HORRIFYING 12-minute video of young men in Steubenville, Ohio, joking about the brutal, extended gang rape of a 16-year old girl last August is now international news after it was posted on the Internet January 2 by the hacker group Anonymous—along with a stream of Twitter and Facebook posts, and photos of the unconscious victim being dragged by her wrists and ankles.

The very clear picture that emerges is of a young woman drugged and then taken unconscious from one party to another while being repeatedly raped and violated by members of the school’s self-styled “rape crew”—while other members took pictures, tweeted about what was happening and made vicious jokes mocking the victim.

The Steubenville case is now about more than this horrific crime, however. The Anonymous postings, in particular, have shown the complicity of town and school officials in trying to bury the details and blunt the effects of this crime—and the readiness of some in the community to blame the victim of a gang rape, and in the most sickening terms.

In this respect, a rape in one Ohio town is revealing how U.S. society and its most revered institutions—law enforcement from the local to the federal level, and schools from the high school level to the most elite of college campuses—routinely minimize rape and sexual violence, and subject any woman willing to speak up about them to abuse and humiliation.

 … The young men in Steubenville who appear so horrifying in the video footage and other accounts of the gang rape last August are actually not so different from the men who commit multiple rapes. Brutal gang rapes may be a minority of sexual assaults, but the Steubenville case has similar features.

Like the vast majority of rapists, the “rape crew” in Steubenville used alcohol as a means. They planned their actions. They were conscious of what they were doing. And they have almost certainly raped other young women before. This is the reality that terms like “gray rape” or even “date rape” obscure.

But it would be equally wrong to conclude that the assailants in the Steubenville case are depraved individuals operating in isolation from broader society. At every level, the sexism that is part of the fabric of the system is implicated.

In a very specific way, the members of the “rape crew,” because they are also star football players, were protected by their coach, school administrators and local government officials in a town that depends on sports revenue. Similarly, when a “bright young student” on campus is accused of sexual assault, campus administrators are more likely to protect than to punish.

But more generally, the men who rape do so in a society that reinforces, in various ways, their beliefs that their actions are acceptable and their victims “deserved it.” Top politicians and judges mock rape victims. Women’s bodies are used to sell everything from soap to cars. Both men and women are taught that women should be sexually available and that the value of a woman is measured by her sexual attractiveness.

Violent and misogynistic “humor” has become so commonplace that it is accepted even by those who claim to not be sexist. Witness the uproar last year when comedian Daniel Tosh made his usual jokes about rape during a show in Los Angeles—and then talked about how it would be funny if a woman in the audience who confronted him was herself gang-raped. Tosh is still hosting a successful show on Comedy Central.

So when people ask how the young men in Steubenville could live-tweet a rape and make violent jokes about the victim, this is the answer. They have been taught in various ways by our society that this is acceptable.

This reality of sexual violence and degradation stands in stark contrast to the idea that sexist and misogynistic jokes are “all in good fun,” because we now live in a post-sexist society where women and men related to each other on a level playing field. In fact, women still endure fundamental inequality in today’s world. This is true in every arena of society, but it expresses itself in devastating personal ways in the sphere of sexual relations.

The myth of “gray rape” rests on the premise that the possibility of being sexually assaulted is a consequence of women’s sexual liberation, and women need to therefore take responsibility for their sexual activity.

But the reality is that women today are caught in a web of contradictions that make genuine sexual liberation impossible. We are sent conflicting messages that we should be sexually available, but simultaneously told that we are to blame if we are harassed or assaulted. We are increasingly deprived of the most basic control over our own bodies, as birth control and abortion are made less accessible. And while the rise of abstinence-only education and lack of open discussion of real sexuality create profound alienation for all young people today, women are particularly affected.

The events in Steubenville have exposed that reality in a way that has horrified people across the country. The demonstrations there are a welcome first step. And there is evidence that a new generation of young women is no longer willing to be silent. When students at Amherst organized last fall to expose the prevalence of rape on their campus, along with the administration’s complicity, they inspired women across the country, and similar stories began to emerge.

It is long past time for a new women’s movement in this country. We can begin by reviving the idea, once widespread, that women are in no way to blame for sexual assault, and that sex without consent is rape—period. But we also must challenge the rampant sexism that permeates our entire society, and the profound inequalities such sexism serves to justify.

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