The Lioness muses. This Cancerian male is… strange. He’s… a sensitive man, more considerate of her as a woman than anyone else she’s known. He’s not domineering, he lets her have his own way most every time they disagree. Of course, there are his moods, but… he worries about her, and he really-truly cares about her feelings. He protects her lovingly and affectionately from the insensitive, rude, crude, and vulgar people who offend her. Truthfully, she’s never felt so securely cherished by anyone in her whole life. At last she’s found a man who sincerely appreciates her. Yet there’s something she senses in their relationship that troubles her. It causes her to feel a little uneasy somehow, like a whispered warning. But a warning of what?
That something she senses is the influence of his Cardinal essence. Cancer is a Cardinal Sign of leadership. Over and over, astrologers keep reminding Fire Signs of this, until they’re weary. It means that, beneath all his sweet gallantry and courteous manner, behind his chuckles and warm humour, he manages in a subtle way to… well, to manage things, including her life. He never yells at her or flames up in a violent temper, making chauvinistic demands. She could handle that. A Leo girl is stimulated, not frightened or confused, by an open and direct challenge. But she knows, in an unspoken, subliminal way, that she’s expected to follow his gentle lead. Whatever small or large Kingdom over which they preside will be ruled cooperatively.
She may attend all the balls she likes, initiate all the gay celebrations she wishes, dress in queenly fashion, add a jewel or two to her tiara when she’s depressed and needs an extra ruby to cheer her up—she can even be the one to give all the orders to the milkman and postman and cleaning people in the castle, and decide which monograms would look best on the linen and silver. On parade days, she may sit up front, smiling and waving, on a throne bearing her name, spelled out in roses. But he will administer the real responsibilities, and it will be clearly understood that, although her whims and fancies will receive his affection indulgence 98 percent of the time, his is the final veto power in those matters which make up the 2 percent of the time when her impulsiveness meets in a head-on collision with his caution.
Here she was, expecting this man to personify what she believed were the qualities of the Water Element – kindness, sympathy, mildness, sensitivity, and… wait. He does possess all those virtues. Every single one. Well, yes, but this leadership thing is disturbing. What about that? Your Majesty, the Lioness, dear girl, if you want a man with all the qualities of the Water Element, but lacking the leadership vibration, you’ll have to find a Pisces or Scorpio male. The Mutable Fish won’t try to boss you, not even in a subtle way, but he’s not quite as dependable as your gentle Crab, and although he is also highly intelligent and sensitive, he’s emotionally elusive. The Scorpion won’t spend his life trying to lead you, either. Scorpio is a Fixed Water Sign. He’ll just try to organize things for you, but then there’s that Scorpio sting if you should happen to tread on his pride or anger him. Your gentle Crab won’t sting you. He may pout a little, and crawl under his shell for a few hours or days, but he won’t sting you when you’re least expecting it.
His actions and behavior are governed by the Moon, so he’ll reflect your sunlight softly back at you, and surely you can see the value of having your sunlight reflected (what Leo wouldn’t?).
—Linda Goodman, Love Signs